When communicating on the Internet – whether you are sitting on a dating site or just chatting with someone in social networks – you have to take people’s word for it. And if it comes to a meeting, sometimes we may have unpleasant surprises.
For example, you get acquainted in the Network with a young tucked-up man, but already on a date it turns out that the site – a photo from ten years ago and your interlocutor has changed quite a lot. Or you admire your favorite blogger, but then you see him in real life and realize that behind all the filters and beautiful words there is a completely different person. Such behavior on the Internet, particularly on dating sites, is called Kittenfishing.
The term “Catfishing” began to be used to describe such situations. And kittenfishing – for easier cases, when the interlocutor composes or changes only part of the facts about himself.
How to understand that you are being deceived?
1. On all pictures, a person looks differently
The combination, length and color of hair, the style of the clothes is very different. This may mean that the pictures were taken at different times, and it is not clear which ones are relevant.
2. Only close-up photos are displayed in the profile
Not a single shot in full height or at least in the waist. Probably, your interlocutor hides his figure, for example, shy of excess weight or other features of appearance.
3. Pictures are taken at a strange angle, the person is almost always wearing a hat or sunglasses
Perhaps in this way the interlocutor is trying to hide features that seem unattractive to him. Or he does not want to be recognized by someone he really knows. This means he probably has something to hide.
4. There are too many filters and retouches in photos
Too smooth, “plastic” skin, unrealistic proportions of face and body, effects and masks like virtual makeup or dog ears – all this can change a person’s appearance beyond recognition.
5. There are inconsistencies and gaps in the stories about yourself
A person says that he can play the violin, but does not know the nuances of the process. He claims to have graduated from a prestigious liberal arts university, but makes some rough spelling and grammar mistakes.
6. The portrait of the interlocutor looks too perfect
He knows 15 languages, is engaged in several sports, has traveled the whole world, a genius, billionaire, philanthropist. If the image is so brilliant and smooth, there is a risk that it is really just an image.